Bridegroom!

                                                             "Bridegroom"

This documentary covers a love relationship that is rare to find in the modern world and seemed as if it was all a dream for myself as well as others. I believe that this kind of love still exists and should be applied to all human beings. The outcome of this story was simply harmony for all things in life will be absolutely positive. I will share their story individually and combine them as soon as they start their life together.

Every life that is brought into this world is a mother’s best gift that she ever received. A beautiful baby boy was born on December 19, 1985, in Kalispell, Montana, his name is Shane Bitney Crone. As the years go by his mother notice he was different and unique compared to other kids, although the love was undying for her and felt that she could do nothing but to be the supportive person her son needed. Shane was always positive and friendly to anyone and build great relationships with them. On the other hand, his father was definitely trying to make him what a boy is supposed to be, that is masculine, active, and somewhat risky. Shane never failed to make his father proud by joining so many sports and among other things until one amazing incident that turned out to be sad, cute, and absolutely funny.

The incident started on a regular sunny day where his father decided to take him hunting for the first time and soon they began to walk deeper into the woods by their home. Moments later his father finally saw an animal and decided to take a shot at it. It turned out that his father made a decent shot and killed the animal and in Shane’s shocking response, “You killed bambi!” Shane took it to the heart and cried continuously and hysterically all the way home. His father instantly gave up and accepted everything for who his son was. This part was absolutely touching and very entertaining that helped acceptance be very well understood among the family.

                As acceptance became a part of the family another issue was becoming devastating for Shane. It was a feeling that Shane was building as he grew older and never knew what it was or never understood what was dwelling inside of him. He notices something that doesn’t seem to feel right as if it was not “normal”. As time goes by, his feelings continue to grow and the depression was arising behind it. The feelings were liking, attracting, and caring for someone who is the same sex and also his friend. Shane kept it a secret to himself and continue to deal with it alone. Furthermore, Shane denied his feelings and never figured out what the word gay meant. Later, he understood by secretly watching a movie behind the couch as his mother watches. He continues to watch and after it was done, he went to bed and took the movie personally as if it was himself.

                Depression got him more than ever and it was taking control of Shane. The movie caused the negative emotion to grow radically where it becomes madness. Shane’s breakdown led him to dial 911 and screamed for help while telling the operator that he was dying of AIDS. This where the family experience chaos at their very home. Years later he told a harmless secret on a letter by telling his best friend that he liked him on a written note. A few moments later, chaos arises as the word had spread out to the entire community that he was simply gay. He was put down, bullied, and restricted from most school functions, most especially the principal didn’t even respect who he was and was abusing his power. It was torture for Shane and nothing was expected to be positive for him throughout his high-school years. He needed to be in a place where he belongs, where he is truly accepted. Then his beautiful journey begins as he drives his way to California.

Continuing Bridegroom…

               The documentary shared two peoples live story and since I covered Shane’s story, I would like to tell you about Thomas Lee Bridegroom. Thomas also known as Tom was born on April 22, 1982. Tom happened to be the only child from his parents, but has half-siblings from both sides of his parents. Tom had to be the treasure of the family and was mommy’s boy. Tom wanted to do things and his parents gave him more than 110% of their support and would doing anything for him, even when he wanted to go to military school! His mother had to work as a custodian in order to support him through military school. He was a good kid and never had any issues growing up.

Tom was the kid that everyone loved, he was energetic, highly spirited, and very human, in other words, down to earth. Tom had a secret and kept it very well hidden. It was then until his last year in school that he had shared a secret with a very close friend. As he was about to tell her, he began to cry hysterically and looked down covering his face and said “I am gay”. He felt afraid that he was going to be judged and the best part that his friend did was comfort him and told him “that it is okay”. It was a relief for him and he felt very comfortable with himself and was confident enough to tell his parents later in his life. Tom made his way into California, where a new chapter of his life.

SHARING CALIFORNIA!!

                Both Shane and Tom were living the life in California! But before the two met. Shane was working to support himself as a Production assistant and was finally happy. It felt as if he was emancipated from darkness and believed that his life will turn out to be better. On the other hand, Tom was a model and was in a few magazines, growing his fame in baby steps. As time goes by, they both seemed to be working too much and never realized anything about a relationship. It was then their mutual friends bring the both of them into a blind date at the bowling alley. Shane being shy and Tom being very open, the opposite personality has brought them together. It was then a spark that created the fire among the two to share the love that no one have seen before.

                Months have gone by and both couldn’t let go of each other, it was like they were meant to be together! Which also felt like marriage. Their relationship was growing only for good and nothing else. They have traveled to some significant places together, which almost every couple have always wanted. They made a sacred communication of knocking three times that meant “I LOVE YOU”. As they continue to live their lives, Tom wasn’t able to come out to their parents until Christmas, where Tom and Shane had visited. During the visit, they were having a wonderful time and in the middle of their moment, he had knocked 3 times on the table. It was a delightful moment and couldn’t get any better. Tom told his parents about him being gay and they began to blame Shane. As a result, it was shocking that his parents strongly despised him immediately and chase both of them out and there was no communication among his family.

As you can tell, a mother’s love is undying for her child, so this triggered her to remove her selfishness and go show her support. Tom’s mother visited the two and they both never thought this will change their lives. Tom’s mother began to show some care and support towards the two. The couple couldn’t be happier and felt so relieved and excited at the same time. After the mini-vacay, Tom’s favorite hobby was photography and love them especially.

One horrible day, Tom was doing a photo shoot for his friend on a roof-top and suddenly he fell off the building. This was really devastating to hear, it was a very sad feeling. Tom was immediately sent to the hospital for emergency care and the tragedy continues, because Shane wasn’t family, he wasn’t able to go and see him. It was worst and I began to cry, even just writing this down. It was a sign of relief when the nurse had told him that he could see him, because she understood their connection and how important they were for each other. That’s when I realize that people could show the human side of themselves if they give it a chance. As Shane cries over Tom, he began to knock three times to let Tom know. Eventually, Tom has passed! L It was devastating!

ANOTHER TRAGEDY!

                Tom’s mother began to go into their place as she wanted almost all of Tom’s things. Shane was not caring at all and continued to suffer the pain of a lost loved one. It was not as painful for Tom’s mother that she wanted to know everything about her son’s life in California. She soon scurried away home and brought her son for the funeral. As Shane questions about the funeral, Tom’s mother became malicious and distasteful towards those who shared a life with Tom in California. As Shane and a few of his friends decided to go attend the funeral, it was then that Tom’s father and other relatives would plan an attack, if Shane ever shows up into the funeral.

                It was depressing to know that Shane was right outside the church in the car attending his funeral. I couldn’t be any more depressed to hear what people would do because of their stubbornness. I grew hatred to Tom’s family and I wanted to do something about it. Moreover, Shane was limited to access Tom’s records and such. It was absolutely irritating and upsetting. On the other hand, Tom was buried in Crown Hill Cemetary in Indiana, below is the image.

As you can see, Both of his parents are right beside him and you could see that there are no dates of death. The reason is because they didn’t want Shane to be buried next to Tom. It was absolutely and ridiculous on how selfish parents could turn out.  In conlusion, I have never cared for gay marriages if they were passed or not, I felt as if it wasn’t necessary, because there will always be some acceptance and agreement in the end. Unfortunately, after watching this documentary I have grown to be more supportive of passing the law. This will bring a step closer to a great happiness in the gay community.